When a relationship ends, it can leave you feeling completely ungrounded. It’s not just the loss of the person—it’s the loss of how that relationship met some of your most basic emotional needs. Maybe they made you feel secure, wanted, or understood. Maybe they gave you a sense of connection or purpose. When that’s taken away, it can leave a huge gap, and often, that’s the part we struggle with the most.

After a breakup, it’s common to feel stuck in overthinking, self-doubt, or even anxiety. And it’s easy to slip into old patterns—whether that’s replaying memories or wondering if you’ll ever feel whole again. But what’s really happening underneath is that some of your core emotional needs aren’t being met right now, and your mind is working overtime to make sense of it.

In this article I wrote for Brainz magazine, I’m sharing how understanding and meeting your emotional needs can be a turning point in your breakup recovery. When you can recognise what’s missing, you can begin to create new ways to feel safe, connected, and valued again—without having to rely on someone else to provide it for you. This is where real healing begins.